Tomorrow is my 73rd birthday. For whatever reason I am having a difficult time not having Tom here. I got thru his birthday (I was in the Temple that day and got Kona that day), I got thru our anniversary (Trevor had come and took me out to dinner that day) and I got thru Christmas (I was with Cindy and family in Australia) but as my birthday looms, I am struggling. The Hardys are away but I have had ministering brothers and ministering sisters rushing to wrap their arms around me and dear friends like Mary Harvey inviting me out for lunch and Wendy McKinley making sure someone was taking me for lunch and bringing me a gift. Liza and Keaton came down a few days ago to just be with me and Cindy and Paul took us all out to dinner to celebrate and we had everyone here, Ross and Sarah included, on Sunday to celebrate the March birthdays. I am not neglected by any means and I feel very loved. I am just missing the one I love most right now. He has been part of every birthday in my life since I was fifteen and no one anticipated my 16th birthday more than he did or prepared for it more than him. He had every detail of that 16th birthday planned. Having someone to love and celebrate me, to lift me, to make me feel like I am more, is pretty unique and it is difficult to live without, that loving, lifting someone. I don’t want my children or others to worry about me; it is just that I miss him so deeply and for whatever the reason that missing and that hurt are spilling into my birthday this year. I am not without Tom’s influence in my life and I do feel his love but I still - just miss him. I am extremely grateful the Lord saw fit to bless me with Tom Walker as my life companion and I hope and pray that I can live worthy to be with both Tom and the Lord forever. I feel like Maria in the “Sound of Music” , the movie we went to on my 16th birthday, “somewhere in my …..past, I must have done something good.” It must have been in the pre-mortal life.
It was a busy week. We rushed to put together out First Stake Youth Temple day and did that on Saturday. We have had one Stake event after the other lately and it has been daunting, however the Lord carries us thru and Saturday seemed to go well. Liza and Keaton arrived in the midst of it and Keaton caught the tail end of the activity while Liza attended a Temple session. Cindy, Paul and Sam took us out for dinner at Beatniks that night to celebrate my birthday and Liza’s. It was also the time change that night and then I had to get up early to drive to Chilliwack to represent the Stake and speak at Chilliwack 1 ward, Ross came as my speaking companion and was the support I needed. He did so well and I am proud of him. I made lasagna on Friday so dinner would be ready on Sunday and the Hardy’s, including Ross and Sarah came. Cindy and Paul brought cake and we celebrated the March birthdays before Liza and Keaton headed for home. There was snow on their journey but they arrived safely. Trevor’s family are on a Caribbean cruise for spring break, the Burgess family head for Australia next week and the Hardy family have gone to Washington State for a holiday. The cruise and Australia were planned before covid hit. Everyone is busy in their own lives and I am busy with my callings (four callings) and my puppy. She is looking beautiful today after a grooming.
I am looking toward trips to Montana to visit the Bulls and then in June to New Jersey for Zachary and Monica’s wedding. I am needing to make reservations for both. I am hoping at least our daughters can come with me to the wedding so I have some time with all our children together if not all their families too. Joanne is feeling better in Lethbridge and I hope perhaps I can see her when I go to Montana.
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